When we think about grief, we often imagine it as a deeply human experience — filled with tears, quiet moments of reflection, and the slow, gentle process of healing. But for those of us who share our lives with cats, the question naturally arises: do cats grieve too? Many owners have watched their feline companions change after the loss of a human family member or another pet, and they wonder whether their cat feels something akin to sadness. Though cats cannot tell us in words how they feel, their behaviors can reveal more than we might expect.
In this article, we’ll explore what we know about feline grief. We’ll look at the signs that a cat might be mourning, how grief can vary between cats, and what you as an owner can do to help. We’ll also compare feline grief to similar experiences in other animals, and discuss when professional help might be necessary. Above all, we’ll aim to understand our cats better and support them through these challenging moments.

What Does Grief Look Like in Cats?
Grief in cats doesn’t usually resemble human grief in an obvious way. Cats don’t cry tears or hold long vigils beside a lost companion. Instead, they show their distress through subtle changes in behavior and routine.
Some of the most common behavioral signs include:
- Loss of appetite or changes in eating habits: A cat might stop eating altogether or eat less than usual.
- Lethargy and withdrawal: A usually playful or active cat may seem tired, listless, or uninterested in toys and activities.
- Hiding more than usual: Cats who are grieving may retreat to quiet corners or favorite hiding spots.
- Increased vocalization: Some cats meow, yowl, or call out more, especially if they used to interact frequently with the lost pet or person.
- Searching behaviors: A grieving cat might wander the house, sniffing or looking in places where their friend used to be.
- Changes in grooming: Some cats might over-groom, creating bald patches, while others neglect grooming and appear scruffy.
- Litter box issues: Stress can lead to accidents outside the box or changes in urination and defecation patterns.
These signs can look similar to stress or illness, which is why it’s always important to consult a veterinarian to rule out medical causes. However, if these changes occur after a significant loss, grief might be the underlying factor.
What Can Trigger Grieving in Cats?
Most often, cat grief is triggered by the loss of a close companion. This could be:
- A fellow pet: Many cats form strong bonds with other cats, dogs, or even smaller animals in the household. When one passes away or is removed, the surviving cat might act lost or unsettled.
- A human family member: Cats often form deep attachments to their human guardians. The loss of an owner — whether through death, a move, or prolonged absence — can leave a cat feeling confused and anxious.
- Major household changes: Even when no one dies, significant shifts such as a child going off to college, divorce, or moving to a new home can trigger grief-like responses. Cats thrive on stability and routine, so disruptions can be deeply unsettling.
Interestingly, cats do not always mourn when a companion animal dies. The nature of their relationship matters. If two cats merely tolerated each other, the survivor may actually appear more relaxed after the other is gone. However, if they shared close companionship — sleeping together, grooming each other, playing — the loss can hit hard.
Individual Differences in Mourning
Just as people process loss differently, cats also have individual ways of responding. Some cats might display clear signs of grief, while others carry on as if nothing happened.
Personality plays a big role. A shy or highly sensitive cat might be more affected by a companion’s disappearance than an independent or aloof cat. Cats who rely heavily on social bonds for comfort are more prone to grieving. Meanwhile, more solitary cats might adjust more quickly, resuming normal routines without obvious distress.
Age and previous experiences can also influence how a cat grieves. Senior cats, for example, might have a harder time coping with change and loss, especially if they’ve lived with the lost companion for many years.
How Cats Compare to Other Animals
The idea that animals grieve is not new, but it is only in recent years that scientists have started to study it seriously. Many animals display behaviors that suggest mourning, including elephants, dolphins, great apes, and some birds.
Dogs, for instance, have been widely recognized for showing grief-like behaviors. Many dog owners report that their pets become withdrawn, lose interest in play, and show signs of depression after the loss of a companion. Dogs, being highly social pack animals, often bond deeply with both humans and other pets.
Cats, by contrast, are often viewed as more independent. However, studies and countless anecdotal reports suggest they can form strong social bonds and can indeed grieve losses. In a 1996 survey by the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA), over 60% of cats exhibited four or more behavioral changes after losing an animal companion, supporting the idea that they experience a form of mourning.
Emotional States During Grieving
What emotions might a grieving cat actually feel? While we cannot ask them directly, behaviorists suggest cats can experience a combination of:
- Confusion: The absence of a familiar presence can be disorienting. Cats are creatures of habit, and the sudden lack of a companion disrupts their expectations.
- Loneliness: If the lost companion was a close friend, the cat may feel isolated.
- Anxiety: Changes in household dynamics or routines can heighten stress levels.
- Sadness or depression-like states: Loss of interest in play, loss of appetite, and withdrawal resemble signs of depression in humans.
Some researchers caution against fully equating these feelings with human emotions. While the exact depth of a cat’s emotional experience is unknown, the behaviors suggest they feel genuine distress when a loved one is gone.
How Long Do Mourning Behaviors Last?
The duration of mourning behaviors varies widely among cats. Some cats might show changes for a few days; others might continue for weeks or even months.
According to the ASPCA survey mentioned earlier, most cats returned to normal within six months, with the most intense behavioral changes occurring in the first few weeks. However, there’s no strict timeline — some cats seem to recover quickly, while others take their time.
It’s important to watch for signs of prolonged depression or health issues, as extended grief-like behavior can sometimes mask medical problems.
How Can You Support a Grieving Cat?
Watching your cat grieve can be heartbreaking. Here are some practical ways to help them through it:
- Maintain Routine: Cats thrive on predictability. Try to keep feeding times, play sessions, and other daily activities consistent. Stability can provide comfort.
- Provide Extra Attention: Offer gentle petting, brushing, or simply being nearby. Let your cat guide how much contact they want; don’t force interactions.
- Encourage Play and Engagement: Gently encourage your cat to play, even if only for short periods. Play can help reduce stress and stimulate appetite.
- Create Safe Spaces: Make sure your cat has quiet places to retreat. Some cats feel better if they can hide and observe the world from a safe distance.
- Use Familiar Items: If possible, keep some items that smell like the lost companion (e.g., bedding or toys) around for a little while. This can help your cat adjust gradually.
- Consider Calming Aids: Products like pheromone diffusers (e.g., Feliway) can help create a sense of security. Always consult with your vet before using any supplements or calming products.
- Monitor Health: Keep an eye on eating and litter box habits. Significant or prolonged changes might require veterinary attention.
When to Seek Help
Most cats gradually adjust with time and support, but sometimes grief can turn into serious health or behavioral issues. You should consult your veterinarian if:
- Your cat refuses to eat for more than 24-48 hours.
- There is rapid weight loss.
- Your cat seems persistently lethargic or withdrawn.
- There are ongoing litter box issues or severe behavioral changes.
- You notice excessive self-grooming leading to sores or bald spots.
Your vet may recommend medical checks to rule out illness or refer you to a veterinary behaviorist for additional support.
Introducing a New Companion
Some owners consider adopting a new pet to help a grieving cat. This can work in some cases, but it’s important to proceed cautiously. A new animal can add stress if introduced too soon or without preparation.
Wait until your cat seems stable before considering a new companion. Allow your cat to adjust at their own pace. If you do introduce another pet, do so gradually and carefully, allowing both animals time to acclimate. Each cat will respond differently — some welcome new friends, while others prefer to remain the only pet.